Episode 37 | Say YES to Yourself | The Unstoppable Mind Podcast with Mary Lou Rodriguez

Are you saying yes to yourself?  

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Hello unstoppables of the world. Hey, you're listening to the unstoppable mind podcast. And I'm your host, Mary Lou. And today we are going to talk about what it means to say yes to yourself. So stay tuned. Hello, hello unstoppables of the world. Hey, how is everyone doing? And I want to just thank you, I want to say thank you. Thank you. Thank you, for everyone who continues to reach out to me, for the people who tagged me or DM me, and you're sharing your biggest takeaways from this podcast. And it just, it means so much to me. So please continue to do so. I want to invite you to share the podcast with anybody that could benefit from being unstoppable. So I wanted to share with you that recently I attended a camp called Camp. Yes. And camp Yes, is an adult transformation camp for women. It totally reminded me of Outdoor School in sixth grade. And it was just such a blast. It was a four day camp. I was a camp counselor. And I wonder if you can guess what my camp name was? And if you guessed, unstoppable, you are right. I would walk around introducing myself saying hi, so and so I'm unstoppable. How are you? I met the most amazing women like truly, truly inspiring, driven, fearless women who are in service of changing this world and making it a better place. The most authentic women like I was blown away by just how transformational and empowering camp Yes, truly was. So huge, huge shout out to Marley Williams for organizing camp. Yes, because it is a it really is a transformational experience. And so today, I want to talk to you about what saying yes to yourself really means because I thought about this over the weekend, as a camp counselor watching these incredibly powerful women show up as their authentic selves, because on the first day of camp, which was I think, a Thursday. I mean, people were, you know, people came to this camp by themselves. They didn't know necessarily know other other people. Now, there were others who, who had come to camp before and knew a lot of people but so on the first day of camp, you know, I remember seeing these women that were just a little bit tentative, you know, am I in the right place? Do I really belong? And then on Friday, they're blossoming. And then on Saturday, they're showing up sassy. And on Sunday, they didn't want to leave. And that truly was the environment for camp. Yes, there was so much growth that was happening so much. permission to dream, our biggest dream. And then what does that really mean for ourselves. And I also want to shout out to the other amazing camp counselors that I had the opportunity of, of, of being a camp counselor with they are really, really incredible. And I wish I could remember their campaigns but Adrienne and, and van and Dre and Sensi and Kay Kay, and Mei Mei I was gonna say me me after gay gay. I hope I've I've remembered everyone. But anyways, what does it mean to say yes to yourself, and I journaled about this for a long time. And what I want you to know is that whatever it is that you want in your life, whatever your definition of success is, and you know, that's going to be personal to you specifically. But it is going to require some action. And I call this courageous action. And it's action to do something that we might perceive as risky or scary or uncertain. And we all have two options when it comes to going for our goals, you know, achieving our goals. Now, we can say no to ourselves, and we can totally stay in our comfort zone and keep our results from taking any action that is perceived as risky. And that's what a lot of people do. And here's what I want to say to you, we can't grow inside of our comfort zone. That's not how our brain works. In order to grow, we must step outside of our comfort zone into the unknown, the unpredictable, and that can be scary. So what do we do by saying no to ourselves, is that we're beating others, to the punch. Because we have this fear, while other people are going to say no, to us, and it's not conscious, you're not walking around, going, people are gonna say no to me. But deep down, you might have this fear, which is keeping you from taking the action. So by saying no to yourself, you're beating everybody else to the punch. And then you're not allowing others. Or, yeah, you're not allowing not others, but you're not allowing yourself to really show up in the way that you desire, in the way that you're feeling called. And, you know, we're playing small, we're trying to spare ourselves from that disappointment. So the other option that we have, if we really want to grow, and if we really want to live our best lives, now, maybe some of you are living your best life and shout out and just like, totally, like, acknowledge you for that. But for a lot of people, we're stuck. And we're playing it small. And so I want to say to you the say to you that the other option is when you say yes to yourself, is to encourage yourself to go after what you really want, regardless of the outcome. I mean, what would that be like? If you were your biggest cheerleader? How do you think that that would feel regardless of the outcome, because what I want you to know is living your dream is for you. It's for you. It's not for other people, and maybe you want to serve and help other people live their best lives. But living your dream is all about you showing up for you. It's about you, leading and living a rewarding meaningful life in the way that you desire. And I know we can get caught up a lot in what other people think. And I've done a podcast episode on this. So what if you could encourage yourself to go after what you really wanted? And yeah, you better believe that the outcome is uncertain. But wouldn't you rather live your dream? Instead of living in regret? I can't tell you how many times I've heard people say my biggest fear is not truly living my life. And so when you take that action to live your dream, yeah, you're gonna get some feedback, you're gonna learn from, you know how you can do things better. You're going to learn like what's effective, you're going to learn, if you need to sharpen your skills and your capabilities, you are going to become wiser. And that's through taking the action. And it doesn't matter who you are, like, if you're Oprah Winfrey, you had to start somewhere. And I'm going to be honest, lots of people have said no to me, lots of people have have said that they're not interested in what I have to offer. And that's okay. Because guess what, I'm not for everyone. And I know that, and you'll hear me talk about that. But I am for the people who are aligned with me and who are aligned with my energy, who want to live their dreams, who want to feel unstoppable for their lives. So I know I'm not going to please everyone. And that's just the way it is. An I don't take it personal that doesn't stop me anymore from living my dream. So I want to invite you to encourage yourself today, to say yes to yourself, to get yourself out of the gate to take a step one step in the direction of your dream, or whatever saying yes to you means putting yourself out there, giving it a shot, letting the cards fall, fall where they will, but if you never put yourself out there, you will never know. So the next time you that you're like, Okay, this might be the right thing for me. Encourage yourself, trust yourself instead of of playing it safe. Or maybe I should say, playing it small. So I want to encourage you to think about what saying yes to you means. And I wrote down five steps for you to leap into your unstoppable life five ways for you to say yes to yourself. And I journaled about these five steps, I want to share it with you today. So the first thing I journaled a journal about was showing up for yourself. Now, I know that this sounds simple. I show up for myself every day, Mary Lou, but I want you to think about all of the ways that you go and go above and beyond for other people. But maybe you cut yourself short. You know, just think about the times where maybe you didn't do something that you wanted to do for yourself so that you could help out a friend or run your kids to their next appointment or whatever it whatever it is for you. meeting everyone else's needs before your own. So making a commitment to show up for yourself, to put yourself first, instead of putting yourself last. Okay, so showing up for yourself. The second thing is setting a goal. Now this doesn't have to be a huge, outrageous goal, okay? set a small goal, set a goal. And what's so great about setting a goal, especially if it's an easy goal is that you start to build momentum, you start to build self confidence. Guess what happens when you start actually achieving your small goals, or big goals. I mean, they can be big goals, small goals, it doesn't matter. But guess what happens when you start to do that, I wish I had my class because I would say class, unmute and tell me what happens. And they would unmute, and they would say, we trust ourselves. Because that is what happens when you start accomplishing your goals, whether they're big or small. When you follow through with what you say you're going to do. So I want to invite you to set a goal for yourself a goal that you can reach, that's going to be easy for you to start out with. Maybe it's listening to hypnosis audio every day, I don't know whatever it is for you. But I want you to achieve it. And then I want you to see how that feels. And then repeat the process. Repeat the process. So through repetition, you are reprogramming that beautiful subconscious mind of yours. And then you start trusting yourself. You we call it being self integral. You know, you're having self integrity, you're following through with what you say you're going to do to yourself, not to others, we always follow through with what we say we're going to do for other people, but I'm talking about you baby. Alright, the third thing is, have a non negotiable. So at Camp Yes, I had the opportunity to do a play shop on money. And I shared about having a non negotiable. And my non negotiable for me every day is hypnosis. Now, I know you're not surprised, but I'm telling you what works. It's hypnosis. So that is my non negotiable. That's part of my process every day. And I've created a system that's super easy for me, but it's my non negotiable. So the second thing is having a reward. So your brain, our brain, my brain loves dopamine, and having a reward. You know, that might be like a massage. For me. I'm, I always choose a big celebration, because I'm you know, because that's how I that's how I roll. So I'm going to Los Angeles next month, I'm going to see my good friend Annie. I'm going to watch her perform live. And yeah, I'm just super excited to hang with her and my boyfriend Scott's going to go and we're just going to chill and have a lot of fun. But for you, maybe the reward for following through with what you say you're going to do, and your reward for your non negotiable and your reward for saying yes to yourself. Maybe it's hanging out and going for tea with a friend. Maybe it's a massage, maybe it's a pedicure. I mean, you get to decide what the reward is. But here's the thing. You actually have to follow through with the reward. You actually have to do it. Because this is how you're training your brain. You achieve a goal. You follow through with your non negotiable you follow through with what you say you're going to do and then you reward yourself. What this does, is this validates you all right. So The fourth thing that I had on my list was investing in yourself. And maybe you're rolling your eyes at me as I say this, but it's the truth. Get over it, invest in yourself. Now, when I say get over it, it's because people want to invest. And there's so many other things that you can invest in. But I'm saying invest in you. And there's so many ways that you can do this, you can join a book club program, you can figure out a painting, workshop, I don't know, you get to decide like how you want to invest in yourself, I love investing in my mind, I will do everything to invest. In my mind, I had two coaches that I worked with last year, I spent$100,000, in investing in myself, and then investing back in my business, and it has paid off tremendously. But you get to decide how you want to invest in yourself. And maybe it's buying a book that you love, I don't know, whatever that is for you. So you get to decide how you want to fill your cup. But really, you know, doing something that keeps you curious, that keeps your learning that keeps you growing, that keeps you evolving, and keeps you in having fun, remembering that the play of life, the joy of life. So you get to decide how you want to invest in yourself, but investing in yourself. Alright, it always there's always a return on your investment, if you are committed to the investment. And I want you to think about that. Okay, number five, is don't throw your shoes at me. But it's quit making it so hard. And yeah, I'm talking to a lot of you that this used to be me, everything was hard. I had a program a pattern of making everything hard. And yeah, you know, part of it is the stress and the anxiety that creeps into our days, you know, and it gets in the way of showing up for us in the way that we truly want to show up in the world. But and also it's of course, based on what you believe, subconsciously, and what your patterns are subconsciously. And a large majority of people find ways every single day to self sabotage their desires. So I want you to begin to ask yourself, How can I make this easy for me? How can I make this simple? For me? That is the empowering question. Not why is this so hard? So how can I make this simple for me? And you can interrupt though that pattern of making it hard when you realize that you're doing it? And you can ask yourself that question. You can train your brain with meditation, of course with hypnosis, with EFT, with new beliefs with affirmations. You know, it's really being committed to learning how to align your subconscious with what you want consciously so that you can make things easier for yourself and on yourself. So just taking a look at how you spend your time each day. And how do you talk about how can you talk to yourself? How do you talk about yourself? How are you feeling most of the day? Because these are all indicators? If you're making life harder than it needs to be for yourself? Are you feeling good? Are you taking that action? So, you know, are you living your best life? And answering these questions honestly, will help you to reset, re calibrate and create a new pattern of how can this be easy? And I'm going to tell you that was one of the things that I worked on this last year. And I had How can this be easy for you? If you were looking at me right now you would see me looking all over my office? Because because I would have and I don't have them up right now I have a new goal, a new pattern that I want to create in my subconscious but I would have them up everywhere. How can this be easy? How can I have fun with this? So that is what I'm recommending. And just taking a look at your life and how you're living your day to day life. Now most of us live our day to day life on autopilot. So we're not even really aware. But I'm going to ask you to become aware. Set the intention. Because you never know where saying yes is going to lead you. And that's really where I want what I want to leave you with because it's so incredible. When you begin to say yes to yourself, What begins to show up for yourself. And, you know, speak You can have and yeah, what begins to show up for yourself, because I'm going to tell you that I never knew in a million years that by becoming a hypnotist, that I would be here in this moment on this podcast that I've created sharing the Wisdom with you. And so many other doors and opportunities have opened, because I've said yes to following my dreams. And speaking of saying, Yes, I want to tell you about a friend of mine that I met at camp. Yes. So for all of you entrepreneurs out there, I want to talk to you just briefly about my friend Lindsey, answered Anderson, Lindsay Anderson, and I want you to know that I promote people that I truly believe in, and I am super excited to share Lindsey with you, I can already tell you that she is going to be a friend and a mentor to me. And when I found out what she does, I was like, Oh, my gosh, I know, so many people need you. And I told her that right away, I'm like, my audience would definitely benefit from what you're offering. So she's a business coach. She's an elite online, I mean, she is the best of the best, she helps people grow their business and scale their, their business. And she focuses on a group coaching programs. But she also focuses on how you can grow your, your business with your clients like finding those qualified clients, because that's the thing that I hear the most from everyone, which is how do I find clients? How do I turn my social media following into clients. And if you're exhausted, if you're just hired of feeling like there is not enough clients out there in the world, or you don't know how to fill your group coaching program, or maybe you don't even really know how to be an online entrepreneur, which used to be me in the beginning, I did not understand what an online entrepreneur meant, met. So what I want to say is meant is that I want to invite you to join me this Friday, September 16. So

it's on a Friday at 1: 22:14

30pm. Pacific Standard Time, I want to invite you if you're not already a member of my Facebook community, it's an amazing community. And it's called a hypnotist and hypnosis business community, the link is going to be in the show notes. And Lindsey and I are going to get we're going to talk we're going to have a really honest conversation, we're going to get down to the nitty gritty, to the realness of truly how to grow your business. So for those of you who have not joined my community yet, the link again will be in the show notes. And once you join the community, you will receive the Zoom link to join Lindsey and I because guess what, we're going to be on a zoom call. And I'm so super excited. I hope my microphone didn't like, we're gonna be on a zoom call. And the best part is that you will be able to ask Lindsay questions. Now this is an opportunity. Lindsay is an expert in her field. She's a multi seven figure entrepreneur, like she is the best of the best. And so to be able to ask the best of the best questions directly, it's a big effing deal. So if you want to learn more, and I'm sure that you do

join me this Friday at 1: 23:30

30pm Pacific Standard Time. And once you join the Facebook group, and again, the link will be in the show notes. You'll get access to the Zoom link, and you can join us live where Lindsey and I are going to have a real honest conversation on how to fill your programs. So Alright everyone, here's to saying yes to you to saying yes to your big dreams to saying yes to living your unstoppable life. So until the next time everyone live your unstoppable life. All right, I'll see you on Friday. Okay, take care. I would love if you shared today's episode with your friends and loved ones. Please share it on your social media channels. And make sure to subscribe to the podcast. I believe that we are all here to help others. Together, we can help more people. I would be so grateful for a five star review. And I'm also grateful that you took the time to let me know how this podcast is helping you. If you want more transformational content, connect with me on Instagram at Mary Lou hypnotizes you and then go over and join my Facebook group, the unstoppable All mine. Visit Mary Lou rodriguez.com For more information on my programs, and how to work with me until the next time, go out there and live your unstoppable life.